Monday, November 14, 2011

THE STATUTE OF LIMITATIONS HAS EXPIRED ON MOST OF OUR CHILDHOOD TRAUMA

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In his book, “Too Soon old, Too late Smart, the author Dr Gordon Livingston, provides the reader with 30 essential truths. One of the 30 essential truths relates to “The statute of limitations has expired on most of our childhood traumas. No matter your past, change is the essence of life. In order to move forward in life we need to learn to live in the present.” (advancedlifeskills.com,)

We’d like to believe in the famous story/movie ending, “and they all lived happily ever after” . Unfortunately life is much more complicated than the make-believe world of Disney cartoons and movies. Whilst children eagerly watch embrace the afore-mentioned cartoons and movies, many of them are often scarred for life due to traumas suffered during childhood, i.e being raped by a family member, poverty, ill-treatment and/or abuse by parents.

There are numerous social problems which beset young children and often it sets the tone for the manner in which they will deal with life during adolescence and adulthood.

To assist the young ones to deal with these traumas, life orientation plays a pivitol role in school education. If not addressed, children, when entering the world of adulthood, willl feel trapped, lost and ill-equipped to face the challenges of adulthood.

The author on the other hands provides valuable advice. He encourages us to let go of the past– and uses the analogy of the statute of limitation to bring across his point. In this regard the statute of limitations is an enactment in a common law legal system which sets the maximum time after an event that legal proceedings based on the event may be initiated. One of the reasons for the statute of limitations is that people want to get on with their lives and not have legal battles from their past come up unexpectantly.

In order for us to move forward, and lead our best life, we need to find the courage to break free from those traumas of the past.

In conclusion, “It’s up to each of us to get very still and say, “This is who I am. No one else defines your life. Only you do.” – (The Best of Oprah’s ‘What I know for sure).

FELINE STUDY SUPPORT GROUP

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During a previous blog I made mention of our beloved housecat, Chubby, that passed away last year. It would be terribly unfair if I do not commit pen to paper with regard to our current housecat, Chaos, who has been with us for more than four years.

Chaos too has an interesting history relating to her arrival into our family home. It dates back to one Sunday morning when my son left the church service as he was totally distracted by the sound of the a cat – only to find a small abandoned kitten, approximately three weeks old. Bottle-feeds, lots of love and attention, skin cleansing treatment followed and the rest is history.

Whilst the previous cat loved boxes, Chaos loves the feel of books, magazines and newspapers. Anything worth reading becomes her resting/sleeping spot. My current study papers, my son’s as well as the study papers of a family member who stays with us during the week, are the ones she seeks out on a daily basis. We often jokingly refer to her passing the exams with distinction when we all graduate from our respective studies.

On the other hand, I believe her need to be up close and personal when we are reading or studying , is just an indication of the love she shares with all of us. We are indeed blessed to have her as housecat.

In conclusion, I'd like to pose the following question :
Did my son find her? or
Did she find my son? I leave it you to you, the reader to decide...


TABLE MOUNTAIN : WELCOME TO CAPE TOWN

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Within the next few days we will know whether Table Mountain has been voted as one of the 7 Wonders of the Natural World. Voting closes on 11 November 2011 and the announcement will be made that evening at 21h00. Table Mountain is one of 28 finalists and together with Kilimanjaro, they are the only two sites from Africa in the competition.

Table Mountain is a South African icon and the only natural site on the planet to have a constellation of stars named after it – Mensa, meaning “the table.” (www.new7wonders.com)

I firmly believe that Table Mountain is one of the world’s great wonderS – hence I have made my vote count many times over. Working in the city we bask in the magnificence of Table Mountain on a daily basis – it cannot be ignored, looming over the citizens of Cape Town and providing us with a spectacular view en-route to work.

As an accredited tourist guide a must-have photo opportunity for all schools doing the guided walking tour of Cape Town Station, is the one depicting Table Mountain in the background.

I believe that for thousands of years Table Mountain has given us more than what we have asked for:
• nature in its natural environment at its best
• Providing daily silent fashion advice (clear mountain = light clothes)
• Contributing tour health and wellness
• Providing a quiet, serene spiritual place
• Provides artistic and cultural inspiration

Table Mountain, situated in the heart of Cape Town - and with her impressive presence which stretches from Signal Hill as far as Cape Point - looks upon us with a message and song that echoes ‘Welcome to Cape Town’

SANTA SHOEBOX FESTIVE SEASON GOODWILL

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On my way to work recently, I was intrigued by the early morning radio interview which encourage listeners to register for the Santa Shoebox. Immediately went online and selected two children for whom I had to prepare shoebox items.

I must admit that I have over the past few years contributed to shoebox items- but sadly, have neglected to ask probing questions as to the donations I provided.
Armed with Santa Shoebox shopping list, I was indeed impressed with the customer service and that staff at both Ackermans and Pep Stores in Belhar were aware of the project. They proudly informed me that their shoeboxes had already been dropped of the previous day.

On arrival at the delivery point in Gardens, I was once again blown away by the impressive administration and the friendly service from Santa Shoebox volunteers. And the rounds of spontaneous applause which erupted when Santa Shoeboxes were dropped of by the public.

Next year I will grows my contribution by more than 100%. I have already networked and lined up a few friends who will each contribute towards the Santa Shoebox project. I believe it is a project worthy of our support. You don’t need to have a lot of money to experience the spirit of giving .

The true spirit of giving requires that your gift comes from the heart and that you expect nothing in return. There is no expectation of anything in return and you simply get pleasure from knowing you have given someone a special gift that in some cases can change their lives. (www.christiandonor.com) The spirit of giving is reward enough for their efforts.

Against this background I hope that the two shoebox I have dropped off , will make a difference to the lives of to young learners in Cape Town. Come 2012 - In the spirit of giving, it is my endeavour to increase the shoebox donation by more than 100%

PASSING ON THE TORCH

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This week’s blogs gets its inspiration from the phrase ‘passing the torch’.

We have all seen either on the news or in person the passign of the Olympic torch from one relay runner to the next until the torch is finally lit at the next Olympic site. The “passsing of the torch” is a pretty good metaphor for life. One generation must pass the torch to the next (www.unionchurch.com – Rev. Bruce Goettsche Series: Living with the Heart of God)

It is considered a great honour to be asked to light the Olympic Flame.

Our eldest son recently moved into his own home and in the process two beloved household items passed from one generation to another : a lounge suite and piano . Both items have been around for more than 30 and 25 years respectively. Although these two afore-mentioned items have been occupying space in the same house for more than 25 years, they have been separated by a distance of a few rooms since the beginning of time.
In their new surroundings they will however take up positions side by side, one providing musical sounds whilst the other provides comfortable seating capacity to those listening to the music emanating form the piano.

I can confirm that we already had the privilege of enjoying beautiful classical music in the comfort of newly refurbished lounge chairs. In today’s modern society where artists rely primarily on the use of keyboards, laptops and digitally enhanced music, it is indeed an honour to pass on from one generation to another, two household item – hence the reference to ‘passing of the torch’.


Whilst it may seem like the end of an era, I am confident that the passing of the torch spells the beginning of another journey allowing the next generation to build and create their own lasting memories.

MY BIG FAT BIG DREAM

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I believe that dreams are very important. It provides directions and purpose in life – something to hold onto and strive for.

My big fat BIG dream does not include wedding plans as those have been taken care of many years ago. Three family members will meet up in Austria. We will kick-start our tour of Europe by conducting a cultural tour of Austria - in particilar "The Sound of Music' tour.

This Big Fat Dream originated and started building up momentum after myself and two sisters found ourselves in Auckland doing a tour of the Northern Island.. This in turn led to a mutual agreement that in 2013 we would repeat the exercise by touring and visiting the hometime residence of the von Trapp family as in the movie, ‘The Sound of Music.’

My Big Fat Dream in this case resonates on two levels :

1. It is a big dream which has been cherished for a significant number of years and will continue until the arrival of departure date.

2. A fat wallet will be required to materialize the dream

Given the success of three- sister-alliance in 2009 where we met up and toured New Zealand, I believe our next Big Fat Dream of conducting ‘The Sound of Music’ heritage tour, will soon expand significantly in 2013 as we gear up towards the travel and tour planning packages.

Looking forward to saying BON VOYAGE when Big Fat Dream becomes a reality in 2013!

ONLY BAD THINGS HAPPEN QUICKLY

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Gordon Livingstone said, “Only bad things happen quickly. Virtually all the happiness- producing processes in our lives take time, usually a long time:
Learning new things;
Changing old behaviours;
Building satisfying relationships;
Raising children;
This is why patience and determination are among life’s primary virtues” (www.goodreads.com)

Against the background of the death of Michael Jackson and the subsequent recent guilty verdict against hismedical doctor, this is just but one example in which negligence plays a major role in bad things happening. Other examples are :

Negligence on the road leads to the quick death of innocent pedestrians;
Negligence by walking on the railway lines leads to a sudden death if struck by a train;
Negligence at level crossings leads to the death of innocent vehicle passengers.

Other example are substance abuse. Once exposed to, a person soon gets caught into the grips of the Methamphetamine (“Tik’) monster - resulting in theft, burglary and crime to sustain the substance abuse habits.

The above are but just a few examples where poor judgment and substance abuse ultimately leads to the setting for a terrible scene to unfold – rather quickly I might add.

BE BOLD AND MIGHTY FORCES WILL COME TO YOUR AID

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The title quote reminds me of another quote which refers to the fact that the timid/meek will not inherit the earth. My understanding of the title heading is that we have to take chances if we want to move forward and succeed in life.

- One has to be bold and :
- Make your voice/opinions heard
- Tackle the problem by the horns;
- Address the elephant in the room;
- Push the envelope;
- Do something that you’ve been putting off for a long time.

In doing so one not only shows courage and strength of character, it also paves the way for mighty forces to enter. In due time this bold investment will pay off – newly acquired confidence, heightened awareness of oneself .. . the list goes on.

The benefit of trying/being bold, is that it one has the opportunity to observe and evaluate the action as well as the reward/consequences. This in turn provides a sound foundation to build upon.

I’d like to conclude with another quotation, “If you really want to do something, you”ll find a way. If you don’t, you’ll find an excuse (Jim Rohn). So, be bold, take the first step and mighty things will come your way!.

THE LAST LECTURE

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On September 18, 2007, Carnegie Mellon professor and alumnus Randy Pausch, who was dying of pancreatic cancer, delivered a one-of-a-kind last lecture that made the world stop and pay attention. It became an internet sensation viewed by millions, and international media story and a best-selling book that has been published in more than 35 languages – making it a favourite of kids, parents, teachers around the world. (www.cmu.edu/randyslecture/)

As we are nearing the end of a final BTech year, the last lecture by Randy Pausch, which teaches one how to really achieve your childhood dreams, comes to mind. For many a full-time student the study period of four years is over and they are ready to conquer the world – filled with dreams of making a difference in the workplace.

As a mature student I have long ago made my childhood dreams a reality. But that does not mean that other dreams do not crop up during one’s lifetime. As they do, they need to be nurtured and they too wait to be fulfilled. It is against this background that my last 2011 Communication Science lecture at CPUT holds the promise of being provided with the necessary knowledge, skills and leadership to go forth and achieve the following dream :

To successfully incorporate the walking guided tours of Cape Town Station into the excursion curriculum of primary schools. As per inspiration from the last lecture, the year 2012 awaits for the realization of this achievable dream.

Sunday, November 13, 2011

WATCH THIS SPACE

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A previous blog this year alluded to the fact that the Edutrain, the unique classroom-on-wheels of Metrorail Western Cape, has been out of serve for the past three years. In another blog I made mentioned that “Blackie,’ the first locomotive to arrive in South Africa, has temporarily been removed from Cape Town Station.

With regard to the process to having the Edutrain undergo a complete general overhaul programme, and having it fully refurbished and returned to once again transport learners on educational excursions, indications are that the Edutrain will be fully operational by April 2012.

“Blackie’ was the first locomotive to arrive in South Africa and was used to construct the first railway line in the Western Cape. Due to the current refurbishment of Cape Town Station, Blackie was removed to a place of safekeeping. As in the case of the Edutrain, it is also anticipated that ‘Blackie’ will return by April 2012 to take up a new position in the Cape Town Station Forecourt.

It is with great anticipation that we look forward to the return of both the Edutrain and ‘Blackie’ respectively. 2012 holds much promise for learners as well as the tourists who will relisgh the opportunity to take photos of the first locomotive to arrive in South Africa in the late eighteen-fifties.

It is in this regard that we say: 'Watch this space …'

Photo of Blackie and Edutrain respectively.




RUGBY WORLD CUP 2011: SOUTH AFRICAN ‘GEES’

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The last whistle of the 2011 Rugby World Cup has blown and New Zealand has been crowned the current holder of the Webb Ellis Trophy. For more than a month rugby became the main conversation all across the globe and thousands of rugby fans trekked thousands of kilometers to the North and South Islands of New Zealand..

One of the most outstanding features of the 2011 Rugby World Cup was the South African ‘Rugby Gees’. A memorable moment of the 2011 RWC was the banner displayed at the South African match in Wellington in the early stages with the following phrase, “My wife thinks I am in Bellville.” Classic humour, from the heart of a Capetonions following the South African team.

South Africans love their sport, are extremely knowledgeable and loyal to the respective sports codes they embrace. Rugby jerseys, flags, tattoos, headgear and all sorts of rugby paraphernalia were seen on television as well as on home soil during South African match days. Seeing the stadium filled with South African supporters and the powerful rendition of the National Anthem makes one realise once again how ‘Proudly South African’ we are.

Whether watching rugby games at home or at the respective stadiums in New Zealand, the message came across loud and clear : South Africans have the ‘gees.’

MY FAVOURITE CAT IN THE HAT BOOK / MY FAVOURITE CAT IN THE FAMILY BOOK

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The title of this week’s blog has me stumped for a six as I have never read any of the books, either as a child or read them to my children when they were young. Not having the time to read all the ‘Cat in the Hat’ books, I have opted to relate the story of my favourite cat in the family book.

Over the years our house has played host to many female cats who fancied our yard as a birthplace of choice. This resulted in quite a few occasions when we would find kittens who have been born in our yard. One such incidence stands out when a mother decided to make our home the place where she was going to give birth to her off-spring. In doing so she provided our house with lasting cat memories and the opportunity to love and be loved in return by an exceptional kitten/cat.

After nurturing mother and kittens, we found good homes for them, but opted to adopt the cutest of the litter, a fuzzy, bubbly feline we called ‘Chubby’. After being with us for more than eight years, Chubby sadly passed away last year following a short illness. During this period she took centre-stage in the household. Her quiet, beautiful nature made her a firm favourite with family and friends and she will always fondly be remembered for her :

- regal mannerism (my son often called her the princess)
- ongoing meowing conversations whilst her food was being prepared
- patiently waiting on the roof of the house for the youngest son to arrive back from school.
- Rolling around at ones feet in anticipation of a sock massage
- Love of a good old back rub and the accompanying purr of appreciation
- Purring sound which was a guaranteed stress reliever to household inhabitants, family and friends
- Her love of boxes – any box, whether big or small - became a target for her to jump in and out of and also served as a comfortable makeshift bed.

In addition to the above, Chubby shared with us a great animal love and we as a family were honoured to have known her for such lengthy period.

In conclusion, the following quote by Leonardo da Vinci, ‘The smallest feline is a masterpiece’ aptly describes our feline masterpiece, Chubby. Our fond memories of her still linger on, one year after her death.

WHY I HAVE CONVERSATIONS

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I believe that Miles Franklin, the Australian writer sums it up beautifully in the following quotation, “Someone to tell it to is one of the fundamental needs of human beings.”

I share the sentiments of the afore-mentioned quotation and to this end I must confess that I enjoy being a part of and contributing to conversations whether at home, work, commuting to and from work, being with family and friends, etc. I believe there is always something of interest to share with others, be it good or sad news. On the other hand, listening to others is also key to successful two-way conversations.

As part of my current studies, I have this year been introduced to a totally new social media conversation -Twitter and Facebook. It has often been said that I have taken to Twitter like a fish in water. I find the online conversations, whether by those I follow or my followers, interesting, up to date, informative and it keeps me abreast with the latest, real-time information. I enjoy participating in online conversations, especially in topics “now streaming in Cape Town” i.e #TableMountain, #Coldplay, etc . Upon reaching the 1000th tweet, it has however not put a stop to my online conversation. As a matter of fact the online conversations into 2012 and beyond has just begun!.

In conclusion, the words of John Milton, the English poet, sums up why I and thousands others love conversations, whether face to face or online :
‘With thee conversing, I forget all time.”

BUCKET LIST : 100 THINGS TO DO BEFORE I DIE

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I must confess that my bucket list does not have nearly as much as 100 items required as per the title of the blog. There are however a few items that I have mentioned and shared with family and friends, i.e I have penciled in 2014 as the bucket list date to conduct - together with my two sisters - a ‘Sound of Music Tour’ in Austria. Currently this is the most ambitious item on the bucket list.

Other items, whilst not as ambitious as the afore-mentioned, are cherished and nurtured and I am looking forward to completing and ticking them off line item by line item. Herewith some of the bucket list items :

• Undertake a Sound of Music Tour in Austria
• Travel through Europe by Rail
• Visit the Interlaken, Switzerland, Railway Museum
• Visit cousin in Germany
• Visit sister in New Zealand
• Resume dance classes (which I stopped with more than 20 years ago.)
• Complete BTech Degree
• Complete MTech Degree
• Start Art Classes
• Do voluntary work for charity organization, i.e Santa Shoebox
• Buy and live in a double story wooden house in area surrounded by forest (Garden Route) with sounds of nearby river and birds providing musical backdrop
• Seriously consider various request by family and friends to write a book about my educational/career journey – with emphasis on ‘How I met Themba Edutrain’

Although the above provides insight into the list of things I wish to accomplish before I am laid down to rest, most importantly, top of my bucket list is good health, financial stability and the opportunity to systematically work through and successfully realise as many items as possible on the afore-mentioned bucket list.

Tuesday, November 8, 2011

FEED THE BIRDS (BELHAR BIRDS)

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Earlier this year I started a Sunday morning ritual of providing breadcrumbs to the birds and in the process it provided for much fun and laughter as well as a bird educational from my grandstand kitchen window view.

In addition to getting to know some regular bird appearances, it also creates the opportunity for Sunday morning visitors to partake in feeding the birds. Breadcrumbs and rice remain firm favourites. It might be my imagination, but I often get the impression that the birds somehow know that it is Sunday. I’ve noticed them twittering away in a tree close their feeding ground - within minutes of me placing the breadcrumbs on the ground, they put in a musical appearance.
Whilst they are twittering away, I too join in by belting out the Mary Poppins song, ‘ Feed the Birds”

On the other hand, this feeding programme remains a finely balancing act as we also have a cat whose food bowl, whilst indoors, is in close proximity to the feeding ground of the birds. It however allows for much amusement though as she keeps a watchful eye on the feeding procedures. Despite producing some strange cat sounds (which is reserved for birds only), needless to say, to date she has been the perfect hostess and allows them free reign of the backyard.

I wonder if I can take credit for a cat that is well trained? Probably not. We all know that have a mind of their own. They do as they please. Will just have to ensure she is well-fed prior to feeding the birds.

In conclusion, herewith the lyrics of the popular Mary Poppins song, Feed the birds - twitter away!


Early each day to the steps of Saint Paul’s
The little old bird woman comes
In her own special way to the people she call,
Come, buy my bags full of crumbs,
Come feed the little birds,
Show them you care
And you’ll be glad if you do
Their young ones are hungry
Their nests are so bare
All it takes is tuppence from you
Feed the birds, tuppence a bag
Feed the birds , that’s what she cries
While overhead, her birds fill the skies.

ROCK GIRL BENCH

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I recently had the opportunity to engage with stakeholders with regard to the feasibility of placing a bench at the Cape Town Station Forecourt. Assuming discussions centered around an ordinary bench, I found the idea very interesting and thought it would be a welcome addition to the recently refurbished Cape Town Station.

I also liked the idea of the bench being a talking point for learners whilst on the walking guided tour of Cape Town Station. I must admit that my assumptions with regard to the look and feel of the bench was however way off the mark. We are not talking about an ordinary bench - a pleasant surprise awaited me when I received a photo an article which introduced me to the Rock Girl Benches.

“Rock Girl, an organization founded by a group of concerned women who seek to focus the spotlight on the challenges facing girls and women in South Africa, has launched its first campaign – the Safe Spaces Initiative. The campaign is aimed at focusing on increasing the environments where South African girls and women can feel safe – by planting benches in Cape Town that offer a real and symbolic feeling of safety and a freedom from anxiety.”(City Views, April 2011)

The idea of the benches originated at a primary school in Mannenberg when girls mentioned their vulnerability in some public places. In addition to having a beautiful artistic look and feel, the educational messages etched on the bench provides and excellent opportunity for educational awareness and discussions:
- Speak out what you see
- Creating safe spaces
- Reaching out for each other

It is anticipated that the Rock Girl bench, which is sponsored by Cape Town Partnership, will be unveiled at Cape Town Station during the first week of December – to coincide with the annual 16 Days of Activism Campaign. This campaign focuses on violence against women and children and is annually celebrated in South Africa between 25 November and 10 December.

I am looking forward to the unveiling of this new artistic educational facility which will also be included in the

walking guided tours of Cape Town Station. Many learner discussions and photo opportunities await in the near future – cannot wait for 2012 for learner photos to be posted in future blogs!